We have all been there, have this great guy we have been seeing for a while and everything is going great and then suddenly he pulls away!!! We have no idea what has gone wrong. If you chase after him calling, following, emailing it will only chase him further away and he will think you are stalking him. So what should you do, nothing, just go about your life and do the things that make you happy. Yes I mean it, leave him alone, he is acting out and needs to pull away for awhile. He will come back when he has gone though what is necessary to feel his love for you again. It isn't that he does not love you he just needs a break from his emotions. He will return. Don't try and force him to do what he does not want to do and he will love you that much more. Men don't want to feel they have to report into us like we are mom. They do not want a mom they want a partner and a lover... If he does not come back, then he did not love you, It will hurt but you don't want to be someone who does not adore you.
Wednesday, February 20, 2008
Monday, February 4, 2008
Wisdom, Courage, Forgiveness
So you have met a man and he has swept you off your feet, you feel like you are walking on clouds, that just maybe he will be the one. You start to day dream about him, you're always seeing him in your thoughts and thinking about when you will hear from him or see him again. Then as you get to know one another a little bit more, some inconsistencies start to appear, he only contacts you on certain days and on the days you don't see him he is nowhere to be found, it is like he just disappears. He begins to be very inconsistent in some of the information he has given you in the beginning, to what he is now telling you, it just doesn't add up.
You are getting a very uneasy feeling but yet you keep making up excuses for all his bad behavior. You want to believe their is a reason for all of this, so you keep seeing him. You're feelings are getting stronger and what is really happening is you are falling for another man, the one he wants you to think he is.
You know deep inside that this will end and yet you still hold onto the false belief's that their must be a reason, but there isn't.... he is playing you and you must have the strength to break away before wasting any more energy on a man who is not worthy of you.
We are in love with the feeling he gives us, not the man he is. This is were you must distinguish the difference and move forward with your life. Do not have anymore contact with him and hold steady to this. Once you have been free of contact with him the feeling will diminish and eventually you will not feel the same for him anymore... keep busy, stop yourself from thinking about him and let time help you.
When one door closes another will open. First have the wisdom to except the truth, then have the courage to walk away with out looking back.
Do not beat yourself up over this, instead be proud that you have the wisdom and courage to admit your mistake, then to learn from it. This is a gift you give yourself, Forgiveness, then forgive him so that you can completely let go.
Scroll down to the end of my blog and click on Page Parker's e-book DATING WITHOUT DRAMA, if you like my articles in my blog then you will love Pages e-book, I have personally read this book and it is awesome, Page gives you excellent tips and advice.
To check out more articles like this one got to my website:
www.theclassywoman.com
You are getting a very uneasy feeling but yet you keep making up excuses for all his bad behavior. You want to believe their is a reason for all of this, so you keep seeing him. You're feelings are getting stronger and what is really happening is you are falling for another man, the one he wants you to think he is.
You know deep inside that this will end and yet you still hold onto the false belief's that their must be a reason, but there isn't.... he is playing you and you must have the strength to break away before wasting any more energy on a man who is not worthy of you.
We are in love with the feeling he gives us, not the man he is. This is were you must distinguish the difference and move forward with your life. Do not have anymore contact with him and hold steady to this. Once you have been free of contact with him the feeling will diminish and eventually you will not feel the same for him anymore... keep busy, stop yourself from thinking about him and let time help you.
When one door closes another will open. First have the wisdom to except the truth, then have the courage to walk away with out looking back.
Do not beat yourself up over this, instead be proud that you have the wisdom and courage to admit your mistake, then to learn from it. This is a gift you give yourself, Forgiveness, then forgive him so that you can completely let go.
Scroll down to the end of my blog and click on Page Parker's e-book DATING WITHOUT DRAMA, if you like my articles in my blog then you will love Pages e-book, I have personally read this book and it is awesome, Page gives you excellent tips and advice.
To check out more articles like this one got to my website:
www.theclassywoman.com
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